Saturday, September 18, 2010
Displays of emotion
I always thought of myself as being more of a giver and always acting unselfishly so that the ones around me would never have to worry or feel like I wouldn't be there. I often would go out of my way to help my friends who needed rides or help with a homework assignment but always saying sarcastically that it was "a lot of work." I always viewed this as joking, but it wasn't until I reached college that someone told me I was very cold and mean. This came to me as a complete shock. I though I was a selfless happy person who everyone knew they could count on. My core values revolved around being honorable and always finishing no matter what. Emotions didn't really exist growing up, my father was cold because "men aren't suppose to show their emotions." I was also criticized for even good accomplished, similarly how I would make sarcastic comments to someone asking me for help. Because of this I didn't really show I was happy or very supportive of those who were asking me for help. It really hit me when my girlfriend had said that I couldn't always be this way because no one would want to be around me. I had to realign my emotions and realize that it's okay to show emotions in the correct situations as long as they don't control your life.
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I agree with you that it's okay to show emotions under the right circumstances as long as they don't control your life. If we're happy or disappointed about something, we should show it. Let's say if you were the boss and the team members did not finish their projects by the deadlines, if you don't let them know you were disappointed, they'd probably think it's ok to miss deadlines.
ReplyDeleteMy father often tells me that a man should not show his emotions, especially when he feels sad, disappointed, or angry. But I think that appropriately express negative emotions sometimes can be useful for leaders to show they are serious, and in this way subordinates will improve their performance.
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