Leadership in Groups

With my friends or my family, my leadership role changes depending on who is in the group. I make a suggestion and it's voted on whether or not we would follow through on that suggestion. However, with my family, I typically regress into the same role: listen to what my parents have to say and pop in a comment when it is appropriate. The perception of power plays a huge role in how I see myself as a leader. With my friends, I believe I can influence their decisions based off my suggestions and therefore I feel empowered by that. I can make an off-the-wall suggestion and it would be taken seriously. However, with my family, it is so much more difficult to change the way my parents think or influence their decisions. If I make a suggestion, more often than not, it is immediately shot down. The situation is different with my younger sister, but largely due to the fact that she often defers decision making to me, especially when it comes to the question of where do we go to eat. She cites that it is my right as the older sibling, despite me telling her to choose.